We first discovered the Spencer Spanking Plan while reading about adult
spanking. Spankings had been a component of our sex play in the past and we
were both curious to learn more on what attracted us to adult spanking and
why. We had both been spanked as children, but more in the style of the
1950's-1960's where corporal punishment was common in most American families.
Until perspectives changed in the late 1960's, the spanking of children was
an accepted and often endorsed part of raising a child. At home or at school,
bad behavior usually resulted in a very red, sore bottom. Saying someone
deserved or received "a trip to the woodshed" became a common way to
describe a need for discipline.
Like most contemporary adults we changed with the times and never spanked
our own children. Hitting a child in any fashion seemed wrong to both of us -
yet we both still sometimes enjoyed spanking play in the privacy of
our bedroom. Then we grew through a particularly bad time in our
relationship, a nearly final one. One night we shared an unexpected
and highly emotional spanking - and both learned a completely
different way of looking at adult discipline.
Sadly, the male punishment of women was until that time also viewed as acceptable
by many. A woman was still marginalized and treated as property, or at least
completely subservient to men; especially to her husband. Almost stomach-turning is
the reality that the common saying "rule of thumb" was first coined in the
1690's to define the maximum thickness of wood stick permitted when a
man would beat his wife. Far from any idea of acceptable discipline by today's
standards, the use of corporal punishment in a loving relationship is very far from
these extremes. In almost all historical situations the female was punished and never
did a male receive physical discipline from his spouse. In the twisted logic that
only humans could come up with - spanking a child or female was right, but spanking
an adult male was not considered.
THE SPENCER PLAN IS NOT FOR CHILDREN IN ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM!
The Spencer Spanking Plan has nothing to do with children. Nothing at all.
The Plan deals with spanking between two consenting, willing ADULTS. It was never
intended nor should ever be considered for application to children, teens, or
anyone in a non-voluntary fashion. Spanking children is now considered child abuse
by many, and just might have been considered that way by Dorothy Spencer too.
How Does the Plan Translate to Everyday Life?
The Spencer Spanking Plan was originally conceived as a discipline
agreement between husband and wife. Under the plan each partner bore a
responsibility to the other for what Dorothy Spencer called
"cooperative discipline". It provided a framework for
the concept of shared corporal punishment, and aimed to provide a
unique equality between the sexes which remains novel to this day.
Originally authored in the 1930's, a short history of the Spencer
Plan may he found here.
For us the Plan helped bring our own feelings and beliefs into action.
It seemed a natural extension of our relationship, and to formalize it
through the signing of an agreement made sense to us. There would seem
to be only one big variation for us: although the existing Spencer Spanking
Plan was a close match, it was still affected in concept with the
dripping male chauvinism of the past. Perfectly acceptable and proper in
her time, but not for this century. And not for us.
Dorothy's original plan looked at each partner individually and not
truly as a matched pair. She also made other assumptions which fit
for her time period - but not for ours. In her original concept
the partners were always married (and also male/female), and
there were formally defined divisions of punishment levels and
implements for each partner. We are not born-again male/female
equality thumpers and its not a feminist issue to us - just a
matter of basic fairness. What is fair for one is fair for
both, plain and simple.
Yes, it means he gets spanked too
For some reason this single part of the entire agreement carries ghosts
of traditional values from long ago. It remains the main sticking point
for many couples we have spoken with. The concept of a male submitting
to a spanking - much less from a woman - carries a load of cultural, sexual
and emotional baggage; along with negative stereotypes which are common
in the general public. Behind a veiled reaction, many of those we have
spoken with are sexually excited by the idea of a man spanking a woman.
However they find the reverse situation to be distasteful or 'un-manly'.
There is nothing un-feminine about a woman being spanked, nor is there
anything un-masculine about being taken over the lap of a woman.
Although it sometimes might feel that way when you are on the bottom!
Many couples use elements of silent discipline or punishment in their
relationship. They withhold affection, they 'accidentally' forget
important events, maybe show moments of rudeness against their
partner while around friends or family. We had each done that to the
other - and much worse - by the time we found the release possible via
spanking. Like many couples, The Spencer Spanking Plan resolved silent
issues and brought us much closer together.
We first discovered the Spencer Spanking Plan while reading about adult
spanking. Spankings had been a component of our sex play in the past and we
were both curious to learn more on what attracted us to adult spanking and
why. We had both been spanked as children, but more in the style of the
1950's-1960's where corporal punishment was common in most American families.
Until perspectives changed in the late 1960's, the spanking of children was
an accepted and often endorsed part of raising a child. At home or at school,
bad behavior usually resulted in a very red, sore bottom. Saying someone
deserved or received "a trip to the woodshed" became a common way to
describe a need for discipline.
Sadly, the male punishment of women was until that time also viewed as acceptable
by many. A woman was still marginalized and treated as property, or at least
completely subservient to men; especially to her husband. Almost stomach-turning is
the reality that the common saying "rule of thumb" was first coined in the
1690's to define the maximum thickness of wood stick permitted when a
man would beat his wife. Far from any idea of acceptable discipline by today's
standards, the use of corporal punishment in a loving relationship is very far from
these extremes. In almost all historical situations the female was punished and never
did a male receive physical discipline from his spouse. In the twisted logic that
only humans could come up with - spanking a child or female was right, but spanking
an adult male was not considered.
Dorothy's original plan looked at each partner individually and not
truly as a matched pair. She also made other assumptions which fit
for her time period - but not for ours. In her original concept
the partners were always married (and also male/female), and
there were formally defined divisions of punishment levels and
implements for each partner. We are not born-again male/female
equality thumpers and its not a feminist issue to us - just a
matter of basic fairness. What is fair for one is fair for
both, plain and simple.
For some reason this single part of the entire agreement carries ghosts
of traditional values from long ago. It remains the main sticking point
for many couples we have spoken with. The concept of a male submitting
to a spanking - much less from a woman - carries a load of cultural, sexual
and emotional baggage; along with negative stereotypes which are common
in the general public. Behind a veiled reaction, many of those we have
spoken with are sexually excited by the idea of a man spanking a woman.
However they find the reverse situation to be distasteful or 'un-manly'.
There is nothing un-feminine about a woman being spanked, nor is there
anything un-masculine about being taken over the lap of a woman.
Although it sometimes might feel that way when you are on the bottom!